Humans confuse me.
People want to feel like they’re helping, but they don’t want to actually help.
They want to ask everyone but you what you should need, and then get defensive and abusive when their brand of help actually makes your life harder.
If you want to know what someone needs, ask them. If they can communicate what they need, do what they need you to do.
Respect that the answer may be “I need you to get out of my space.”
If all you can do is not make their life worse, then do that.
Being a decent human is not that complicated.
Helping other people is not about you. If you’re making it about you, maybe work on why that is.